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Author: rquevedo

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Causes: Counseling, Grief, Suicide

Mission: Kindness matters, and to the more than 5 million people around the world who lose a loved one to suicide each year, it matters a lot. We provide healing and compassionate support during the lonely and tumultuous aftermath of suicide. We help people survive suicide loss, and go beyond “just surviving,” to lead productive lives filled with meaning and joy.

Results: Over the last 5 years clients have called “Strides against Suicide a “lifeline” or has said our message has reminded them “how important life is and my life can be saved!” Since 2015, we have raised over $82,000 to provide crisis counseling slots for all school age students, and patients who are being released for the emergency room and for anyone who is having thoughts of completing suicide and we have provided critical incident debriefing for any employer or provider in the county who has lost an employee (an employee’s family member to suicide).

Target demographics: Survivors of Suicide loss

Direct beneficiaries per year: Since 2018 we make sure survivors of suicide can reach us thorough our crisis line of Facebook messenger which operates as a 24/7. Our website host several visits from people seeking information and support in the complex emotional aftermath of suicide. We also answer hundreds of calls and emails requests each year for information and support from survivors, clinicians, students, media, and the general public.

Geographic areas served: San Juan, Cibola and McKinley Counties served.

Programs: Desert View offers online resource for people bereaved by suicide. Our services are developed and supervised by Rick Quevedo, CEO and, Lauren Mead a licensed mental health practitioner. They are anchored in best practices and answer a need not served by any other organization.

Future Programs goals we hope to include: 1) Clinically moderated community forum. 2) Website with resources for new survivors, blog, bookstore, and memorial section. 3) Low-cost Zoom/ tele-med and phone consultations for new survivors. 4) Facebook page with original content and messages of support each month will continue.

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Candlelight Vigil June 25th, 2021 Berg Park

On June 25th, please join us Berg Park (the corner of Scott Ave and San Juan Blvd) around 7:00 pm at the Pavilion- for an intimate gathering with those who have lost a loved one to suicide.

Bring a photo and your memories of your loved one as we come together and celebrate their memory … and honor their memory with a moment of silence and close out the evening with a full candle light vigil.

If you are a survivor of am attempted suicide- we are glad you are still among us… join so we can remind you of the love and support you still have.

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Strides Against Suicide 5K June 26th Berg Park

Join us for our 5th annual Strides Against Suicide 5K on June 26th at Berg Park, Farmington New Mexico!

Activities 5K, Kids fun mile, local provider booths, speakers, balloon release for our loved ones, silent auctions, music and fun surprises! Proceeds go to Desert View Family Counseling. 

Registration Information BELOW!

About this event

We are working to break the stigma around suicide and help the community find their people in the community. We want you to connect with others! We can stop suicide if we come together, check in on one another and get help when we need it!

2021 Event schedule

  • 6:30am- Packet pick-up
  • 7:30am- Speakers
  • 7:45am- Race Line-up
  • 8:00am- 5K Begins! (Also the children’s 1 mile will begin)
  • 10:45 am- Announce Winners/Award Medals/ Boulevard Knights presents donation to Desert View*
  • 11:00 Silent Auction Winners/Festival/Music/Vendors
  • 11:15pm- Butterfly Release
  • 11:30pm- Closing Speaker/Thank You

If you are not walking or running and you would just like like to make a donation- go back to our homepage and click on the PayPal icon!

To participate in our 5K (walk or run) and receive a t-shirt and be timed for 1st, 2nd or 3rd place- there are several registration options for child, adolescent and adult (with or without t-shirt)

REGISTER HERE: ACTIVE.COM

https://www.active.com/farmington-nm/running/distance-running-races/strides-against-suicide-desert-view-family-counseling-2021?int=

**Families are allowed to participate without a paid registration- however they still must register the day of the walk and sign a waiver a liability.

We realize not everyone can pay- that’s okay- we just want you, your family and your fur babies there to walk with us and be a voice for those who can cannot have a voice!

Strides Against Suicide
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Parenting Class

Parenting Class is the 1st Saturday of every month.

Next Class- June 5th, 9 a.m.- 2 p.m.

We use evidenced based curriculum.

6 credit hours of court approved material .

Call 505-326-7878 Option 1 to get signed up!

Come learn from our evidenced based curriculum and each other!

**Participants must be present and have camera on the entire time to participate – otherwise you may be removed from group.

https://zoom.us/download

If you do not have ZOOM please click this link above.
Please give yourself time to get on and get situation so you are ON TIME FOR CLASS.

Watch the Video Sample of of our evidenced based curriculum!

Nurtured Heart – a tool for resiliency!

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Covid-19 Updates -June 14, 2021

To Our Partners and Clients

Hello clients and County Partners, it is so good to hear we are in turquoise! – While the State approaches more normalcy, all we can do is- continue practice safe and smart habits at all our site for all of our clients.

Desert View Values:

  1. Clinic Clients: Beginning July 1st, we will be going back to mostly in person. (Covid-19 safe practices will apply for non vaccinated clients, masks, social distancing, etc.) While Medicaid and Insurance will be honoring Telemed sessions for an additional amount of time, we do encourage the importance of face to face appointments, however this will be a case by case discussion between you and your therapist.
  2. If you a have canceled last minute or no showed your Telemed appointments, or have been preoccupied on your Telemed sessions where we have had to end the call and you have been warned of this, the requirement going forward, may be face to face visits only or possible discharge.
  3. We have an extreme waiting list and if a client is not going to value this allotted time- we have others (who are waiting) who will.
  4. Family Support Workers, Wraparound Services, Truancy Services and Community Corrections, will have the ability to return to the field to practicing covid safety protocol (both client and worker). Some of our workers are completely vaccinated.

We are truly grateful for your support and partnership during this time. As an essential provider we will continue to earn your trust by utilizing best practices through these uncertain days that seem to be getting better!

Thank you so much for continuing to trust us with the care of you and your family!

Rick Quevedo, CEO

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Substance Abuse & Life Skills Group!

Substance Abuse every Wednesday at 1:30 p.m.

Life Skills/Anger Management every Thursday at 1:30 p.m.

https://zoom.us/signin

Click this link to “download Zoom” for free (available for desktop and phone).

We have group every week-Call 505-326-7878 Push opt 1 to get and get on the list!

At that time we will get your email so you can receive our weekly zoom link! Evidenced based- and court approved!

Wednesday Class: Substance Abuse at 1:30

Thursday Class: Skills/ Anger Management at 1:30

Be sure to stay on track with your requirements, spite the pandemic.

You must be on time and have your camera on the entire time or risk being removed from the group!

The day before group we will send you a seperate link (via text ) and that is how you will participate.

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PullTogether.org

https://pulltogether.org/

RESOURCES MAP NOW AVAILABLE

You can now see a map view of the various resources to support children, youth and families available throughout New Mexico. The map includes names and locations of different service providers and more detailed information.

https://pulltogether.org/resources-by-county

What is PullTogether?

As New Mexicans, we are all responsible for making our state a great place to grow up. We may face challenges, but our strong communities and diverse cultures make it possible to give all children the love, support, and guidance they deserve.

Watch the Video

PullTogether is about enlisting parents, families, community members, and young people in the fight to make sure our children are safe, cared for, and ready to succeed.

If we all work together, we can make New Mexico the best place to be a kid.

Support for Parents

“When I feel myself losing patience with my kids, it really helps to take 5 minutes of alone time to calm down.”

“I plan small breaks for myself throughout the day, like listening to relaxing music or taking a walk outside with my baby. It helps keep stress from building up.” 

“I lose my patience more quickly when I’m worried about things other than my kids, like work or friends. Acknowledging that keeps me from taking it out on them.”

For more advice from parents who have been there before, click here.prevnext

HELP AND ADVICE FOR NEW MEXICO PARENTS

Being a parent is hard. But you don’t have to do it all on your own.

Don’t see what you need? Call PullTogether at 800-691-9067, email us at info@pulltogether.org, contact your local community hub, or see what’s happening in our online community forum.

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PullTogther.Org Resource Page

What is PullTogether?

As New Mexicans, we are all responsible for making our state a great place to grow up. We may face challenges, but our strong communities and diverse cultures make it possible to give all children the love, support, and guidance they deserve.

Community Hotlines

If you need immediate assistance or feel that you or your child is in danger, call 911.

GENERAL SERVICESPHONE
NM Child Abuse / Neglect Hotline#SAFE from cell phone
1-855-333-7233
NM Crisis Line1-855-662-7474
1-855-227-5485 (TTY)
Poison Control1-800-222-1222
NM Adult Protective Services1-866-654-3219
SUICIDE PREVENTIONPHONE
NM Help Line (Agora)1-866-HELP-1-NM
Spanish-Language Suicide Hotline1-800-784-2432
Suicide Text Line741741
24/7 Emergency Line575-758-1125
SUBSTANCE ABUSEPHONE
NM Substance Abuse Helpline1-855-505-4505
Agora Crisis Center505-277-3013
NATIONAL SERVICESPHONE
National Hopeline Network1-800-SUICIDE
National Domestic Violence Hotline1-800-799-7233
1-800-942-6908 (Español)
1-800-787-3224 (TTY)
National Sexual Assault Hotline1-800-656-HOPE
National Child Abuse Hotline1-800-24-ACHILD
National Child Abuse Prevention Line1-800-CHILDREN
National Teen Dating Abuse Help1-866-331-9474
National Runaway Switchboard1-800-637-0701 Ext. 118
Gambling Addiction1-800-522-4700
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Managing Stress, Anxiety, and Fear Connected to Coronavirus (COVID-19)

While the outbreak of COVID-19 (Novel Coronavirus) has created a great physical health concern, it has also created a large mental health concern as a result of the increased fear and anxiety connected with it.  It is important that along with taking preventative and precautionary steps to protect ourselves from the infection, that we take steps to protect out mental health as well.

We have included information and tips for the following groups:

  • General Population
  • Individuals Receiving Mental Health Services
  • Parents and Caregivers of Children and Caregivers of Elderly Individuals
  • Mental Health Providers and First Responders

General Population:

Anxiety and fear are normal reactions to stress and danger, but during a pandemic the levels can spiral out of control.  It is important to ensure that you monitor these levels and track increasing levels of anxiety and fear. 

  1. Normal stress reactions are to be expected with the increasing worry connected to COVID-19. Some normal stress reactions are the following:
    1. Change in activity levels.
    2. Decreased efficiency and effectiveness.
    3. Difficulty communicating.
    4. Increased sense of humor/gallows humor.
    5. Irritability, outbursts of anger, frequent arguments.
    6. Inability to rest, relax, or let down.
    7. Change in eating habits.
    8. Change in sleep patterns.
    9. Increased focus on cleanliness or infection.

When stress and fear interfere with your ability to do daily tasks and normal reactions become extreme or prolonged, this should be addressed with outside support and professional help.

  • There are several daily items which can serve to reduce anxiety and fear during the COVID-19 Pandemic and the Shelter in Place Order.
    • Washing hands, using hand sanitizer, carrying hand sanitizer with you, and social distancing to reduce worry of infection.
    • Setting up options for working remotely.
    • Setting schedules and prepare for the next 7 days, but being flexible and willing to change plans as needed will help with a sense of normalcy.
    • Reference and research information you read on social media to prevent increased worry.
    • Practice self-care and include items such as: exercise, healthy eating, time with family, connecting with friends virtually, focusing on the positive moments.
  • Avoid increased alcohol or substance use to avoid anxiety and stress or to assist with difficulties sleeping.
  • If the anxiety and fear become overwhelmingly strong and prolonged, you feel hopeless, or have thoughts of self-injury or suicide, seek help immediately by calling the Mental Health Resources, Inc. Crisis Hotline at 1-800-432-2159 or the National Suicide Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
  • Practicing grounding, mindfulness exercises, meditation, and relaxation techniques can be helpful.

Individuals Receiving Mental Health Services

It is important to contact your mental health provider and schedule a time to speak with them as soon as possible. 

  1. Identify coping skills and mindfulness exercises which will assist you with reducing anxiety and managing your stress or fear during difficult times.
    1. Identify a therapeutic plan to ensure that you are able to continue mental health services during the crisis.  (Referral to a different provider, phone or tele-video sessions, health home/care coordination services.)
    1. Request refills of medication to ensure that if there is a service interruption, medication refills are on hand with your pharmacy.
    1. Identify additional support systems.  Connecting with support groups, friends, and family who can provide non-judgmental support can be key in anxiety provoking times.
    1. Mental Health Resources, Inc. will be providing services during all levels of the CODVID-19 crisis via telephone or tele-video for therapeutic and psychiatric appointments, and crisis services through the MHR Crisis Line, 1-800-432-2159.

Parents and Caregivers of Children and Caregivers of Elderly Individuals

Parents and Caregivers will face a special challenge during the COVID-19 pandemic.  It is important to acknowledge that there are two major types of challenges you will likely face; addressing your own feelings, and challenges addressing the crisis with those you care for (elderly, child, mentally disabled)

  1. Gauge the need and level of information to share and how to best discuss the changes and events that are occurring.  Almost all children as young as grade school have heard the term Coronavirus or COVID-19 and have heard individuals talk about the crisis and what is happening in our nation.  Children respond more to how a parent shares information that what is shared and as such making sure that you are prepared, understanding, and confident when discussing the topic with them is key. 
    1. Use words and terms that are age appropriate and share the level of information that they need to hear and providing information that is beyond what is asked for by the children.  Don’t give blind reassurance or dismiss the negative, but avoid oversharing. 
    1. Younger children will be less likely to understand what is going on or why the changes have occurred.  Older children will be more aware how the world works and be more inclined to seek their own information in the absence of information provided by caregivers and parents.  For the elderly and/or mentally disabled, assessment of what level of information will be understood will be a case by case item.
  2. Set boundaries related to access of information that is viewed.  Unfortunately, in the age of 24-hour news and social media there is a lot of wrong information online and this can cause undue anxiety and fear.  Additionally, there is also the need to guard against information overload and constant updates.  Limiting the amount of time spent online and watching news while being more available and discussing what any concerns.
  3. With elderly or mentally handicapped, they may have a difficult time understanding what is explained.  Focus on helping them understand the changes, not focus on the causes, if mental capacity is an issue, but this is a case by case issue to be assessed.
  4. Those in long-term care facilities may feel isolated, especially if they are used to daily visits from loved ones.  Understand that the absence will most likely increase anxiety and feelings of loneliness, so make accommodations that can support the mental health of those individuals. Find ways which you can interact and visit with them by phone or virtually. 
  5. Young children may feel overwhelmed and overly anxious when expected to not attend school, see friends, play sports, etc. Remember to remain calm in interactions and not let the stress of the situation to impact how you react.
  6. Connected to anxiety, watch for signs of depression and/or hopelessness. Make sure children and adults you care for know you are available to talk, and if needed, seek professional help by contacting the MHR Crisis Line, 1-800-432-2159, or an outpatient provider.
  7. Make sure you take time for you.  As the caregiver you can only help reduce anxiety of those you care for by addressing your own anxiety and stress.  (See General Population Section.)

Mental Health Providers and First Responders

As professionals used to high stress jobs and situations we often forget or pretend that we are not impacted by events such as the current COVID-19 pandemic.  Make sure that you assess and address your own stress, anxiety, and fear around events.

  1. Prepare yourself for the impact that dealing with the anxiety and stress of those you encounter as part of your professional role will have on you.  Prepare yourself for what you will see, hear, and experience and have plans for how to share and address these items.
  2. Make self-care a priority, this includes:
    1. Physical health: adequate sleep and rest, health diet and not skipping meals, exercise, and assessment of physical impact for your body.
    1. Mental health: making sure to take time away, maintaining social connections, separating work and home life, peer supports and peer interactions.
  3. Work with coworkers, superiors, and supporting agencies to assist with contingency plans as needed and possible.  Options to consider are items such as working virtually, employing crisis management services, working rotating shifts, and coordination of support to family members as needed.
  4. Remember you are human and to seek professional help if you become overwhelmed by what you experience or vicarious traumatization.  It is crucial that you protect your own mental health and address your own anxiety, fear, and stress.
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